I recently moved to San Diego, CA. It’s still pretty close to where my mother lives, and it’s great that my family gets to see her whenever we like. She always comes over once a week for a visit. This makes my daughter happy, because she loves to see and spend time with her Nana. When they come over, they have music together. Music has been shown to be helpful for individuals like my brother, who have autism. My daughter loves doing music because it’s fun, and she gets to play different instruments.
When my mother comes over to our house in San Diego, CA., she brings a huge bag full of musical instruments. These include a tambourine, a rain stick, bells of all kinds, and a xylophone. My daughter loves that the best, and is even learning to play the first few bars of “Mary had a Little Lamb”. Before they begin, my mom gets everything set up. She will have a snack that she brought along for my daughter, so she has something to munch on and doesn’t get hungry halfway through. They normally play for about an hour, although sometimes it goes on for longer.
They will play a few songs of their choosing. My brother picks a few, and if my daughter is feeling up to it, she will pick some as well. If it is the holidays, they will play songs that match the holiday. Christmas is obviously Christmas carols. Holidays like Memorial Day involve marching tunes. If there is a Disney movie that is popular at the time, they will play songs from that soundtrack. There’s no specific goal, the only thing my mother wants to do is draw my brother out of his shell, and teach my daughter about music.
While they are playing, I am busy working. I normally write while they play. Sometimes my daughter does not always participate, and will run off to her room. We let her do her thing, knowing she will come back when she is ready. After they are done playing, they take a small break and my mom and I visit. I love when she comes here to San Diego, CA., so I stop what I am doing and talk with her. I tell her about what we are doing this weekend, and what my husband and I have been up to during the week. That is always interesting to her.
I know we have family that live outside of San Diego, CA., so I ask my mom how they are doing. Visiting with her is the one highlight of my week. The rest of the time, I feel like I am always running around and trying to get stuff done. It feels like I never have a free moment, no matter how slow my day is. When she goes, I miss her and so does my daughter. But I know she will be back again soon enough. We love exploring San Diego together.